Posts tagged leadership
The Magic Sparkle Dust of Influence

Grit is like magic sparkle dust. Call it grit, tenacity, persistence, stamina… it’s about your willingness to keep going and keep doing activities that we we call “concrete action” toward your goal. It’s considered an influence power source, but it comes entirely from within yourself. The wonderful thing about it, though, is that if you build your grit, you have the capacity to magnify every other influence power source there is.

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Stop Stressing About Your Lack of Confidence

At the end of every professional development experience that we deliver, we distribute a feedback form. Feedback is a gift, after all. One of the questions on that form has a list of our programs and asks people to circle the ones that interest them. Almost every single time, the title that is circled by the most people is Fight Your Confidence Killers.

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Connecting Quickly as a Panel Speaker

A few weeks ago, while at a conference, I had the pleasure of listening to a panel discussion entitled Women in Power. The panelists were all women in positions of relative power within their industry, and the discussion was about what it takes to achieve that kind of power - especially as a woman - and what to do with that power once it’s been earned.

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Professional Development Advice for the Millennials Out There

What can you do from where you are right now?Here’s what I say: focus on and increase your ability to be influential. Your title is what it is, and it may not change anytime soon. Your experience is what it is, and the only thing to do there is continue on. But you’ve probably only scratched the surface in terms of your influence capabilities.

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5Ps of Presenting (Yourself)

Reputation is one of the power sources of influence. We define reputation as an estimation of your overall qualities by others in the community to which you belong. This can feel really hard to capture and control, because it’s essentially the high-level read others make of you. At wolf & heron, we often, very technically, refer to it as your “vibe.”

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Be Assertive, not an Ass

Being assertive is the simplest, most direct way to influence someone. Why? As human beings, we generally tend to believe what others tell us, and question what others question. At our core, we are non-confrontational (yes, it’s true), and to dispute a direct statement invites lots of conflict… so we only do it when absolutely necessary.

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Be Assertive, not an Ass

Being assertive is the simplest, most direct way to influence someone. Why? As human beings, we generally tend to believe what others tell us, and question what others question. At our core, we are non-confrontational (yes, it’s true), and to dispute a direct statement invites lots of conflict… so we only do it when absolutely necessary.

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Influence Pathway: Appealing to the Relationship AKA Who Would Take a Bullet for You?

When I first started thinking about influence and how it works, I was almost exclusively interested in how I could get lots of people I barely know to do something specific. Coming from a background in environmental stewardship, I had already tackled the challenge of trying to inspire entire organizations to use energy more responsibly, or getting voters to care about an issue and vote accordingly. When I thought about influence, it was about moving mountains.

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Power Source: Network

Network Power is one of the most effective Power Sources from an influence perspective. It sits only second to Grit. That’s because your network can help you build all the other power sources and implicit in your network is the fact that people want to engage with others they know, like and trust. Through your networks you can build expertise, gain access to information, develop a positive reputation, and (rather circularly) build your network.

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How to Defeat your Credibility Crisis using Confidence

As we discussed earlier, many of us feel like imposters sometimes. We feel like we lack credibility and it holds us back from doing what we need to do.

Here’s what happens:

Because you don’t feel credible, you might not try for that opportunity staring you in the face. Instead of applying for that job or reaching out for an informational interview, you sit back, take an extra day to look at your LinkedIn profile. You wait another week, do some research and still feel inadequate. You finally get around to sending that email or picking up the phone and you’re filled with so much self-doubt that when you finally reach the person on the other side, your breath gets short, your heart rate speeds up, and your inner voice is saying, “Why do I sound so panicky?” And it’s all you can do to keep going when you feel like that person on the line is slowly hearing your crumble in real time.

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Book Reaction: The Confidence Code

Katty Kay & Claire Shipman previously partnered together to write Womenomics. This time around, these journalists enter back into the fray with a study of confidence - what it means, what it’s made of and how we (especially women) can get more. They paint a picture and tell the stories of experts and confident women to understand the relationships between confidence, being female and success.

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Organizational values and personal values lead to a more organic culture

An organization informs its culture, in part, by developing a set of organizational values. In the words of HRr, “As Human Resource leaders, it’s our job to lead the business in defining the values it holds dear, translating those values into behaviors appropriate to each level of the organization…” We’ve spent some time recently (see here and here) describing the WHY, WHAT and HOW of values at the individual level and why knowing your values is critical to being an authentic leader.

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